20 January, 2016

THE SLOW LIFE



Since my children were tiny babies I have worked hard to keep our days slow and calm. This goes for both house days and days of social calls and errand running.

It's not about being anti-social and it doesn't mean living lonely.  I love community; we need community. It is about knowing your limits, and living well within them. It's about teaching my kids the importance of the now. The necessity of being still It's about patience and contentment and turning from self to service.

Slow living both reveals and preserves the richness of motherhood.

It's stopping to study the snail on the walk home from the grocery store, even in the cold, even when you have a dozen more errands to run. It's buying the homeless woman a hot meal when you're already running late.


It means when in my power, my calendar is never bursting with commitments. It means we often have quiet days at home-- painting, baking, building Lego-- more than once a week.
It means we have time to take that unexpected phone call, or FaceTime Mimi twice in two days, just to say we are thinking of her. It means the spontaneous house guest is welcome, not inconvenient.

It means instead of rushing out the door, there's time to teach my daughter how to tie her shoes and hold her sleeves when putting her coat on.
It's cooking more than 30-minute meals.
It means the spilled glass of milk feels a little less inconvenient.
Because whatever's happening in that moment-- that's where you are. It's where you should be. It's where I want to be.

It means whatever is going on, wherever we are headed, is not more important than whatever the current moment holds.




It's waiting for the next green light at the crosswalk. It's taking the time to take hands before crossing. It's crouching down to look your child in the face, to speak to him eye-to-eye.

This, to me, is one of the most freeing and peaceful things about motherhood: that this is how it can be. Dare I say should be?

It's stretching my patience and challenging me in real ways I can feel; I fight the urge every single day to shout hurry! To think, I don't have time for this or We have to move faster.

We were born into a world where we're told we should constantly be trying to get ahead and work the weekend and get out of the way, and hurry it up for goodness' sake.

It's a lie.

"The great thing, if one can, is to stop regarding all the unpleasant things as interruptions of ones 'own' or 'real' life. The truth is, of course, that what one calls the interruptions are precisely one's real life-- the life God is sending them day by day." || CS Lewis




Here's my sale's pitch: if you're frazzled, frustrated, your patience seems to be wearing thin, evaluate: What are you doing? Are you doing too much? Where can you cut back? How can you slow motherhood down? I'm so thankful we have a tender Father that gently leads those that have young.


Raise a glass to motherhood, and have a happy Wednesday, mamas!

7 comments:

  1. This is so encouraging! We're preparing for our first in June and I am catching myself when I worry about busyness, remembering that children are a gift from God. No one would ever get anxious at Christmas thinking "when on Earth will I find time to enjoy these new, wonderful gifts?" so why would I feel this way about my growing family?

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    1. So glad it was an encouragement to you! Congratulations on your little one!

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  2. Thank-you for teaching me this. <3

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  3. Thank you for your passion and sharing it freely with others! I often am in a hurry and already feel my kids are half grown

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  4. Love this. I love watching your life on Instagram and catching posts like this. It really blesses me - and I only ever worked with your sister! Thanks for sharing this - it touches pieces of me I long to walk out even before I hit motherhood.

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    1. Thanks for the encouragement, Sarah! I'm so happy you were touched by this. It's been such a blessing to be able to live this way, and I'm glad you're able to pull from this, even before motherhood!

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